Afrobeats star BNXN may make chart-topping hits with ease, but when it comes to matters of the heart, Lagos appears to be his greatest challenge yet. The singer stirred fresh conversations online after sharing a blunt and relatable confession about the city’s chaotic dating scene. Taking to X, the ‘Outside’ crooner wrote: “To find love for Eko too hard for me o.”
With just that one line, BNXN reopened an age-old Lagos debate: why is love in Africa’s busiest, noisiest, and most emotionally unpredictable city so complicated?
Social Media Sparks Reactions
BNXN’s tweet didn’t need context, Lagosians instantly understood. The post spread across X like wildfire, attracting thousands of comments ranging from humor to heartbreak. Many fans echoed his frustration, arguing that Lagos is a beautiful place to build dreams but a difficult city to build relationships. Others joked that in Lagos, romance competes directly with traffic, survival, and “wayo people.”
Even without elaborating, BNXN’s statement hit a nerve. In a city driven by ambition, where trust is fragile, and appearance sometimes outweighs intention, love becomes a luxury many struggle to secure.
BNXN’s Complicated Love History
For longtime fans, BNXN’s frustrations feel almost inevitable. His romantic life has played out messily and publicly over the years, often overshadowing his music.
Back in 2022, he became the focus of a major controversy when a private video was leaked by a woman who claimed they were involved. The scandal generated a media frenzy and sparked debates across social platforms. BNXN later addressed the incident head-on, admitting to emotional failings and acknowledging he had hurt someone he deeply cared for.
In a vulnerable moment, he confessed online that he felt incapable of loving anyone besides his partner at the time, Peggy.
“Na me just dey do rubbish,” he wrote. “For the first time in my life, I’m heartbroken, and me cause am.”
That honesty, messy, raw, and painfully sincere, became fuel for his 2023 debut album Sincerely, Benson, a project shaped by heartbreak, regret, and emotional clarity. Yet, despite the healing his music brought, it seems the pursuit of genuine love in Lagos remains an uphill battle.
Career Success, Emotional Setbacks
While his personal life appears to be stalled, BNXN’s career continues to soar with no signs of slowing down. Since winning the prestigious Headies Next Rated award in 2022, the singer has evolved into one of Afrobeats’ most consistent hitmakers.
His sophomore album Captain, released in July 2025, has dominated streaming platforms and secured a spot among Spotify’s most-streamed Nigerian albums of the year. His collaborations, performances, and growing international presence show an artist in full professional bloom.
Yet the contrast between his glowing career and his troubled love life paints a bittersweet picture, one many young Nigerians relate to. In Lagos, success can be loud, fast, and dazzling, but emotional stability is often harder to find.
The Lagos Love Dilemma
BNXN’s tweet may have been brief, but it reflects a broader truth: Lagos is a city of opportunities, but also a city of emotional landmines. Between survival demands, trust issues, inflated lifestyles, and the constant rush, forming genuine romantic connections often feels like a luxury.
For BNXN, the search continues. He can fill arenas, dominate charts, and win awards, but finding real, steady love in Lagos? That might just be his toughest challenge yet.
